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Mood: confused
Posted on 2009-01-26 20:27:00
Tags: wedding
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Is starting planning now for a May wedding totally crazy and unreasonable? Because we've mentioned it in casual whatever a few times now (not asking about the date) and apparently everyone else thinks so.

(if it is, that's fine, but it would be nice to know...)


20 comments

Comment from onefishclappin:
2009-01-26T20:39:16+00:00

If you can get the reception place you want for the weekend you want it, then you can do it. Everything else isn't nearly as time critical (it's not like you have to worry about alterations on a wedding dress or anything.)

Comment from kernelm:
2009-01-26T20:42:00+00:00

From what I've heard, that's not too crazy. The big worry would be if vendors/venues that you really wanted are already booked, but there should be plenty of choices in Austin. We're giving ourselves a year but that was just so we could take it easier and be more relaxed.

Comment from taesmar:
2009-01-26T20:55:36+00:00

We booked our wedding in September and got married in January. But we also did a package deal in Vegas.

Comment from amorphousplasma:
2009-01-26T21:07:22+00:00

It's something I would like to try. But Matt tells me it's not doable because people have to book their travel plans. :(

Comment from liz_gregory:
2009-01-28T20:15:18+00:00

it's doable - we did it with 300 invited guests (250 of which came!)

Comment from bobacita:
2009-01-26T21:24:15+00:00

Yeah, I'd say the more notice you can give people, the better. We had about six months between the engagement and the wedding. It was tight, but we did it :)

BTW, Re: your other post, our wedding was at Vintage Villas, overlooking Lake Travis. It wasn't cheap, but we really liked how the wedding turned out. Our wedding coordinator was awesome.

Comment from onefishclappin:
2009-01-27T07:38:14+00:00

That's the name of the place that they Gregory's got married at (I have a mental block on that name, for some reason.)

Comment from liz_gregory:
2009-01-28T20:17:48+00:00

yup, but our wedding there was actually cheaper than my sister's in rural Mississippi!

They did the food, the cake, the champagne, set up and clean up. They can have the ceremony on site yards from the reception hall, and they have really nice hotel rooms on property (note to self: spend an anniversary enjoying one of those hotel rooms...).

Comment from bobacita:
2009-01-28T20:22:15+00:00

Oh, warning: their reservation system is aggravatingly inefficient and slow. First, they gave my mother-in law's room to some conference goers. Then, both times I stayed there (once for my wedding, another time for one of their promotions) they took forever making and confirming the reservation. I'm not just talking about 15 minutes. I think it was somewhere between 30-45 minutes. It doesn't really make sense why they take so long, but basically they get a bit of information from you, do a little typing on their computer, chat with each other, disappear inexplicably to the back of the room for a long while, repeat the process...

That said, once you successfully get a reservation, the rooms are nice, and the jacuzzi is splendid as well.

Comment from llemma:
2009-01-26T21:42:59+00:00

I think it really depends how insane you want your wedding to be. If the scale is moderate and you're not super picky about getting exactly the right vendor, I think you can pretty much swing anything. (:

Comment from skimmerduk:
2009-01-26T22:01:18+00:00

I agree...you can do it! My friend Margaret pulled together a wedding in two months, although it lacked certain components of a typical package. However, you're not doing anything crazy, so if you can book the date you want, you should be fine.

Incidentally, one thing to consider about May is that it's graduation season. I don't know if you're direct friends with upcoming graduates, but some people (i.e. me) might have graduations that they're supposed to be attending. I don't know if that adds another dimension to considering people's travel plans...

Comment from copperwolf:
2009-01-27T15:29:20+00:00

Then, how about April?

Comment from djedi:
2009-01-27T11:11:04+00:00

We're cranky, lazy people who hate wedding planning. I think we should either A)do it in mid May and just find place still available for then and be our not picky selves OR B)do it in like late August/September to avoid the peak season and give ourselves time to be lazy and indecisive.

Comment from taesmar:
2009-01-27T11:38:19+00:00

It's never a bad thing to have an odd anniversary. Sometimes the sheer number of summer weddings is overwhelming.

Comment from abstractseaweed:
2009-01-27T12:37:27+00:00

I've never planned a wedding so I can't speak from experience, but you will surely be stressed out about it until it's behind you. Even if you put it off with the intention of being lazy, it'll still be a nagging source of stress. So there's certainly an argument to be made for doing it sooner.

Comment from abstractseaweed:
2009-01-27T12:44:09+00:00

Also, in your case there's the added advantage that most of your family lives within driving distance. Months and months of advance notice for travel probably isn't as much of an issue as it is for some couples.

Comment from djedi:
2009-01-28T09:57:16+00:00

True except for a bit of Greg's family lives out of state and needs some advance notice...but else, like 90% of the invite list is within 4 hours drive.

Comment from liz_gregory:
2009-01-28T20:19:27+00:00

Britton says that the most stressful part of our marraige was the 4 months leading up to it! It won't get any better until it's over, and wonderful memories are what you're after, not making other people happy.

Comment from gregstoll:
2009-01-27T12:59:02+00:00

We've got a church and a reception location...maybe we should try to find out if May dates are available like this week?

Comment from liz_gregory:
2009-01-28T20:14:26+00:00

I started planning in January for ours at the end of May. It's nuts, but doable. It's much better since you have both of you to do it, instead of me doing it all myself ;)

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